People find many ways of dealing with the mental issues attached to rape. These signs can be clearly seen by the outside world but not as easily identified as a problem associated with rape trauma.

Unusual behaviour, like being quiet for a period of time when that person is not normally that way. Like wise a quiet person might deal with it the other way and become loud, even abusive towards people they like. This would be a way of causing attention to a problem indirectly, “I WANT HELP” in disguise sort of. If your carers are trained to pick up these signs you may get the attention you need to address this problem, but more likely it will go unrecognised and staff end up putting entries in your “permanent file” saying you're mouthy, cheeky, abusive and any other problems you might have been showing while trying to grab some ones attention.

There are many signes you might be giving out while trying to get the REAL problem adressed, one way I reccommend is to come right out and ask for it. Not always easy to do but it does get the right type of attention.

You will need to find someone you trust to talk with first as there may be consequences after you tell them certain stuff. Different people have different confidentiality policies and may need to tell other people, this shouldn't put off talking with someone, you just need to be clear first on what there confidentiality policy is.

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